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19 March 2016

OUR PARENTAL DUTIES IN ISLAM


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Our parental duties in Islam.
In Islam the institution of family is very important. The members of the family consist of the husband, wife and their children who all have mutual duties to each other. These duties can be considered to be in 5 parts, which are: the duties of the husband, the duties of the wife, the duties of the children towards their parents, the duties of the parents to their children and the duties of siblings to each other.
1-The duties of the husband: To get on well with his wife, to protect her, to support her with all her needs and to be loyal to her. In a hadis-i sherif Rasulullah (sas) says the following “The most beneficial ones of you, are the ones who are kind to their spouse.” And in another hadis-I sherif it is said that “Only the gracious ones of you will treat their wife with respect and honor, and only the bad ones of you will treat them with disloyalty.”
Husband is the head of the family. Therefore he is the one responsible for making sure that the whole family is on the path of ehl-i Sunnah vel Jemaah. His parental responsibilities are explained in an ayah as following “O you who believe! Save yourselves and your families from a Fire whose fuel is Men and Stones” (Tahrim 6)
2-The duties of the wife: To submit the commands from her husband that are agreeable according to the Islamic law, to protect her husbands honor and dignity, to be satisfied with her status, to stay away from extravagance and to be a helpful housewife. This is the path that brings happiness.
3- The duties of the children, to their parents: To respect and obey them. According to Islam children are not permitted to even ‘sigh’ when parents tell them something. Children who don’t look after their parents, who don’t obey the commands of their parents which are ‘agreeable according to Islamic laws’, who don’t support them with their needs, are not considered to be
beneficial children and will deserve the punishment of Allah (swt).
The father is in the most important place to be respected and the mother is in the most important place to be helped and supported, therefore the rights of the mother are two times more than the father. In a Hadis-I sherif prophet Muhammed (sas) says “Jannah is beneath the feet of the mothers”. A beneficial child not only respects their parents but also respects the friends of their parents by visiting their graves after they pass away, because this is also respecting the parents.
4-The duties of the parents to their children: Parents should treat their children fairly; they should be fair caring for them and looking after them so that jealousy and resentment doesn’t occur between them. Parents must treat their children kindly and should discipline them in a manner that wouldn’t force them into rebellion. Parents should make sure they teach their children how to read the Quran at an early age, they should order their children to start praying at the age of seven and give them slight punishments if they still haven’t started at the age of ten, and It is the duty of parents to arrange the marriage of their children when they come of age.
As parents are the physical cause of their children to come to this world, they have to take care of them physically as well as bringing them up with strong Islamic manners and with a strong ehl-i Sunnah vel jemaah itikaad. To bring up a child deprived from ilim, amel, ibadah and good manners is unfair and it’s a great harm to the child and to the society.
5-The duties of siblings to each other: To love each other, to help and respect each other. There is a very strong bond between brothers and sisters, this should always be protected. Especially the elder siblings are considered to be on behalf of the parents; therefore the elder siblings must be treated in great respect. Brothers and sisters that cannot get on well because of financial disagreements are not considered to be well mannered. Brothers and sisters that have a strong bond between each other are the ones who will always be successful.

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